Monday, October 5, 2009

Women Charged with Domestic Violence


It's not just men who are being busted for spousal abuse. A fair share of women have been pictured on the pages of The Jail Report on charges of criminal domestic violence (CDV).

Here are two examples:

Ashley Odenweller, 32, of North Augusta (top mugshot), was arrested at 2 a.m. this morning and charged with CDV by public safety officers in North Augusta.

Elia Alaniz-Moreno, 26, of Aiken (bottom), was charged last week with CDV.

Women are more often the victims of domestic violence — but domestic violence affects men, too. Domestic violence occurs between people in an intimate relationship. Domestic violence against men can take many forms, including emotional, sexual and physical abuse. It can happen in heterosexual or homosexual relationships.

Because men are traditionally thought to be physically stronger than women, men may be less likely to talk about or report incidents of domestic violence in a relationship due to embarrassment or fear of ridicule.

To break the cycle, experts recommend that the victims start by telling someone about the abuse, whether it's a friend, relative, health care provider or other close contact. At first, a man may find it hard to talk about the abuse. But he will likely feel relief and receive much-needed support.

For specific examples of abuse and more advice on how to break the cycle, click here.

93 comments:

  1. Wow! this lady on top....looks fimiliar and is a Guidance counselor @ a middle school in columbia county!!! what an example!

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  2. What an example for her 11 year old daughter

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  3. If this chic is a counselor at a school, she should be removed. Who wants a person who is unable to maintain control of themselves to be around their children. Oh HECK NO!

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  4. My child goes to that school! Needless to say, I am NOT pleased...

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  5. maybe this girl will get the HELP (medically/emotionally) she desparately needs and get her life straightened out & pull herself together.

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  6. THERE ARE THREE SIDES TO EVERY STORY. THIS WOMAN HAS ONLY BEEN ACCUSED OF A CRIME AND NOT CONVICTED.MY OPINION IS THAT THIS WOMAN HAS BEEN EXPLOITED PRIOR TO BEING SENTENCED IN A COURT OF LAW .

    R.M.A.

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  7. “Judge not, that you be not judged. For with the judgment you pronounce you will be judged, and with the measure you use it will be measured to you. Why do you see the speck that is in your brother's eye, but do not notice the log that is in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when there is the log in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the log out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to take the speck out of your brother's eye. Matthew 7: 1-5

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  8. when police responds to a domestic call, the police officer examines the EVIDENCE & decides who will be arrested for this charge

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  9. Hopefully, this person has a family that will get her the help medically and emotionally (psychiatrist/therapist) that she truly needs. get her evaluated!!!this will help her on a better path of life instead of a path of destruction!!!

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  10. It seems everyone knows this woman needs help but her. She should think of her child!

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  11. This is being looked into by CCBOE.

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  12. My child has been counceled by the woman on the top. We all have problems. I would still trust this woman to councel my child. You go girl after being abused by this man it was time to stand up for yourself. I would have done the same.

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  13. My son goes to her middle school and has had her as a teacher and a guidance councelor. SO she defended herself. Get off her case.

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  14. Believe me, she is not the one being abused!! She is the abuser and It's too bad she lead people to believe he was doing that to her but we see who got charged...

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  15. Yes, this is her 3rd husband & she got violent with all three.....trying to provoke them is they key she would use. As far as trusting her to guide your child @ school, she doesn't give much guidance to her own. All of her outbursts and violence goes on in front of her daughter.

    SHE PUTS ON A GOOD FRONT.....she can fool you into thinking , she's always the victim. you have to know the story behind the teacher & guidance counselor. There are many people @ the school who know the truth.

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  16. Seems as though you have an agenda for bashing this girl. I think she was defending herself, he is a know wife beater. You sure do seem to know alot about this girl, funny you are staying anonymous!

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  17. These anonymous comments are coming from many different people so no one person is here to "bash" her. It angers people like me who know the true situation to see her play the victim. He is not a known wife beater, get your facts straight

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  18. Why is everyone that's making comments about this young lady signing them "anonymous"? If you know this person, sign your name or give your initials. Maybe if we all did that we could work together and get her the help that she needs. She does not deserve to loose her job or her child, she just needs a little help, don't we all ??????

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  19. The problem is that she won't get help! & the situations that she creates & puts herself & her child in gets worse & more dangerous on each occurence. There are alot of behind the scenes things that people don't know about. The main thing to know if that she's a LIAR and tries to trick everyone into thinking that she's the victim........SHE'S NOT!!! WAKE UP & SEE THE FACTS.....she was arrested because of evidence the police found. If she was being beaten.....he would have been arrested too. apparently, there was no evidence to support that. SHE WAS PROVOKING HIM & IT BACKFIRED ON HER!!!

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  20. Since when do "guidance counselors" wear dresses to school that are so short that when they bend over to talk to a coach, their entire bottoms show? My daughter came home from school this week and said she saw this woman's underwear. And this was AFTER she came back to work from being arrested.

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  22. What I can't understand is why she still is able to be in a school and work with children when she was arrested for criminal domestic violence....Hello???!!! Columbia County!!!!There was evidence or she would not have been arrested.

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  23. The only question I have is,"What if this were a man? Would all of the support and concern be there for him to keep his children and job or are we as a society going to continue the double standard???" I say no... lock her behind up and she should be suspended pending a judicial and psycological review!!!
    Don't do the crime if you can't do the time!!!

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  24. She is still at school having access to all the children including still causing confusion to her own.....THIS SHOULD NOT BE ALLOWED! they won't hire you if you have an arrest record....why should they keep you employed if you get one ???!!!

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  25. Lakeside Middle School

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  26. I thought it was another school?

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  27. Can't y'all just get along?

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  28. Hope Austin Rhodes finds out about this lady soon. As parents we should be informed and maybe Austin Rhodes could look into this situation and tell us more about this "GUIDANCE COUNSELOR".

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  30. There was children present during this altercation/violence.....her daughter & his. this has been an ongoing situation. not just with this man but with others.

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  31. Is this person still an active employee or has she been "suspended"?

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  32. No, she's active. She was just showing her panties on Tues or Wed after this incident See above comment). I would love to know more about this woman. She is around my daughter...

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  33. Her facebook says Atkins, the kids at school call her Renew, and she was arrested under Odenweller. How many aliases does she have?

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  34. If this truly bothers you as parents, and it should, has anyone bothered to call her boss or the school board to see if they are aware of the situation? We have to be the voice of our children.

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  35. pARENTS.....MAYBE AN ARTICLE OR COMMENT IN THE AUGUSTA CHRONICLE???!!! rANTS & RAVES

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  36. Is she married? Her facebook status is single. The article in paper has her as Ms.Odenweller. I thought she was Mrs. Atkins. And who is the third party that called...her mother? She is a scam artist who fooled a lot of people!

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  38. She is not a perfect person....we all make mistakes. Last I checked there was only ONE PERFECT one. Her name is Ashley not JESUS! I am sure that she will get enough grief from Columbia County......she does not need it from anyone else! Find something else to do with your idle time and leave her alone. By the way, I do personally know her....I have had 2 children at LMS....Ashley, keep your chin up!

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  41. TO J.P.P.:.....You TRULY don't know her!!! You are one of the many that she has fooled!

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  42. Perhaps you are right.....but have you ever heard of "innocent until proven guilty"? There are two sides to every story....I do not agree with the children being present, however are you sure that they were? She will have her day in court...everyone needs to quit playing jury and convicting her before she even goes to court!

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  43. She is the best Guidance counselor and teacher i have ever known! Charges should be droped because this is the nicest lady and that guy must be a lowlife for spitting in her face. She was defending herself!

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  44. There was a child present and she can tell you exactly what happened!

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  45. RA dream on. she has finally smartened up to ur ways. she is not coming back. we all know who most of the anonymous comments are from. TB and MT. Real classy. one question TB how do you plan to explain to the students at LMS why there are two Mrs. Renew's. That should be a real moral lesson for the kids. Sure glad my kids dont go there anymore. He is a known wife beater and she was defending herself. Its time to give her her life back and move on with all of yours. NOW YOU ARE THE ABUSERS!!!!!!!!!!!

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  46. Some comments have been made that Ashley had alot of people fooled into thinking she was something she wasn't-maybe so and maybe not. She didn't nominate and vote herself Teacher of the Year and she wouldn't have remained in the position of Guidance counselor if she was not deemed to be performing well in her duties. As far as being married three times- I have met all 3 husbands. She was young when she married the first and you think you can change them, which we know is not always so. The second husband should have gotten a divorce if he was being abused. NOT SO- read between the lines-he is now married to one of her former friends and co-worker at Lakeside.(If I were an abused spouse, I think I would really be afraid of my abuser finding out that I was having an affair.) She recently married her present husband and I really don't think anyone would believe he would let anyone abuse him unless there was..the rest of the story. This is a low point for Ashley, but she has done alot of good things in her time in the Columbia County School system. If some of the comments above are from those who have "sinned" and still want to toss stones, maybe Columbia County should reconsider allowing them in the classroom to influence the children since we know they know how to be deceptive.

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  47. I've known her since I was a little child and even though we all make mistakes, which she has made, we don't have to live our mistakes in the public eye. While this is a bump (or mountain) in the road she still loves and cares deeply for her daughter and is lucky enough to have friends and family who support her. As for her husband Rav, you're an jerk.

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  48. Really this is all shameful. I know both of the women that are talked about in this. They are both an asset to Columbia County. No one in this situation deserves to lose their jobs. Their personal lives are just that..personal. I hope that Mrs. Atkins can continue in her position. I work at Lakeside and respect them both. There will be two Renews at the school,so what?! One that has fallen on hard times and is getting divorced and is taking the name of her child back, the other who is moving forward in her life. They both deserve to be happy. We love you both.

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  49. man this is like a witch hunt stuff people being saying is crazy SHE IS HUMAN i dont know her but people make mistakes and most learn from them with the way people judge its no wonder we have so MANY innoence people in prisons just lock all up thats all everyone wants to do .the system makes more money locking people up for a year, then what they would make in a year all about the money and judging people.

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  51. TRUTH………
    No one is going to lose their job, read the code of conduct for CCBOE employees.
    TB and MT don’t care enough to write a comment!!
    Stay off of RMA's case, he is the one stuck with the bills!

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  52. CANT WE ALL JUST GET ALONG ?

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  53. This lady deserves another chance. I don't think she should lose her job beause of this.

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  54. There should not b 2 Renew's ....Ashley does not have the right to assume her second husband's name after being married to someone else. Legally, she has to either stay atkins or take her MAIDEN name.....Odenweller!!!

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  56. To the person who said LEGALLY what she has to do needs to read up and find out that SHE can legally have her name changed to just about anything she wants to. From what I have read the second Ms.Renew didn't wait until the name was available before she started assuming the role.

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  57. That simply is not true! The soon to be 2nd Mrs. Renew is a great lady! There was nothing going on while the 1st Ms. Renew was in the picture. The 1st Ms. Renew was the one spending the night off w/ her boyfriend (her 3rd husband) among others. there are plenty of witnesses to this FACT!

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  58. Legally or not this woman has taken Renew back because she thinks she is getting over on someone. She is doing it to hurt her current husband and to try to keep drama going. It is what she does. Not to mention..Atkins is not a name she wants to keep and I would think that since she used Odenweller when she got arrested, she doesnt want that one either. Renew sounds like the only decent name she has had!!! Besides this is about her getting arrested for beating her husband with their children present!!! With all her education you would think she could find a way other than violence to solve her arguements.

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  59. Maybe with your education you could learn how to spell argument.

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  60. HEY I KNOW HER AND MRS.ODENWELLER WOULD NOT DO ANYTHING LIKE THAT AND I EVEN SPENT THE NIGHT WITH HER

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  61. Does it even matter what her lastname is, damn. i mean she already has enough crap as it is. get a life and leave this poor lady alone.

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  62. TRULY you don't KNOW her like all these other people do. Yes, some of you see her at school or in public....but the one's who TRULY KNOW HER (witnesses)are really close to her & see the way she lives her life and some of the things she has done and is still doing (emotionally) to her daughter and anyone else that gets in her way of having what she wants!!! Everything she does is STAGED!!! Staged so it looks like she is the victim. & truly the other person is the victim.....(daughter, 2nd husband, 3rd husband)...there is a pattern here....I am here to say ....she desparately needs psychiatric evaluation so that she can get the help she needs.

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  63. Yes it does matter what her last name is .....after you take another man's name & disgrace the 2nd husband's name .She should use her maiden name.

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  64. u most likely know a lot more about her then i do, but i know she doesnt need to lose her job.

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  66. Don't judge Mrs. Renew most of yall don't know her. She is a WONDERFUL person and counselor! I love her to death and I think shes strong for doing what she did because most woman just sit there and take it. Love you Mrs. Renew <3

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  67. I bet she wouldn't be getting all of this support and sympathy if she were black!!!

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  68. To all of you bleeding hearts out there; all of this personal conjecture should be removed and focus on the evidence... "She is a criminal and should be punished/prosecuted to the fullest exent of the law". Furthermore she has no business around children and should be placed, at the very least, on administrative leave (if not fired) pending the outcome of this case and a psycological review.

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  69. Amen!!! Administrative leave or another office position @ another school...until the outcome of her and conviction of her case and DEFINATELY a psychological review.

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  73. im black. she is a goog women. i know her. why the black card?

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  74. sorry im meant good dont judge me too..

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  75. wow..what a bunch of losers..shows the mentality of columbia county people..like a bunch of cattle judging anyone without knowing facts..you people have nothing better to do than to talk about other people like you are so much better..how about her soon to be ex husband who is a known wife beater and has a history of it. the only thing she is guilty of is marrying that idiot when she knew he likes to hit women..she's too old to fall for that song and dance

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  77. There are several reasons why these comments get under peoples skin. A lot of these comments have been going against people who are not involved or whom have been a victim of her anger. People just love drama and they love to bring everyone down with them. If anyone wants to know who the true victims are in the whole scenairo it is the two little girls. They did not ask for all this drama, nor did they ask for these two people to get married. However.... they did...and now the little girls are the ones who are missing each other and trying to move on to a different chapter in life. So please try to think about them before all these stones are tossed. There are several families who have been affected by situation.

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  78. "birds of a feather, flock together!" Unless they lose their urge to fly!

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  79. To the gutless idiot that wants to bash Ashley's third husband, sign your name!!!!!!

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  80. I just want to know who the idiot is that brought racism into this! This situation had absolutely NOTHING to do with that. It wouldn't change anything if she were black, latino, asian, etc. (just in case you weren't aware that there are many other minorities in this country). Remember, you can't play a card that you weren't dealt.

    Also, I love the comment from the person who wrote "Rav, you're AN jerk"...If you're going to criticize someone, don't make yourself look like an idiot while doing it!

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  81. AR - If you are referring to yourself as Ashley Renew.....STOP!!! That is NOT your name !!! You gave that up when you married your 3rd husband. Your name is Ashley Odenweller Atkins. Legally, you cannot resume or take back your second husband's name. If you don't want your name to be Atkins, then use your Maiden name.

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  82. Wow, you sure are a quick one to judge! Just because I have those initials doesn't mean I'm referring to myself as Ashley Renew. And why are you so concerned about what her name is anyway? And actually, she CAN "legally" change her name to just about anything. Ever heard of the guy who's LEGAL name is Larry Lizardlover?

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  83. It looks to me like two white trash people got together and decided to live like white trash. Why is everyone so suprised?

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  84. If you are going to call someone white trash, sign your name !!!! Don't hide behind anonymous !!!!

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  85. White trash or not this woman should not be allowed to counsel children WHO ARE ABUSED when she is charged with this CRIME. I can't beleive Columbia County is allowing this!! I am so disappointed and relieved my children do not go to that school. She was charged with CDV!! Where is her child now? I hope she is safe!!

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  86. woooooweee!

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  87. I've not made a comment to this point, but geez...It's been a month already. Leave the lady alone and move on to some other more important issue. I do know all parties involved, and none of them are horrible people. All of us have things happen in our lives that we didn't expect to happen -- and usually -- we're stronger on the other side of it. (PS. I work for Columbia Co, AND my kids DO go to this school. It's a GREAT middle school, and I'm glad they are there.)

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  88. tweet tweet...is what the bird said!

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  89. RMA, do you really think she is goig to take you back? Surely you are smarter than that! She is using you until she goes to court so you will defend her...be prepared for the ride. It is sad you are once again turning your back on those who truly love and care for you.

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  90. If anyone ever spit in my face I would do far worse than what she did, we all have a "fight or flight" reflex. As for the 2nd renew wife, you will one day be judged for what you have done to your former husband (who was over seas in the army) while you were off with lord know's who. And for what you did to my sister. except this time the judge will have an eternal punishment. for your soul's sake I hope he grants forgiveness.

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  91. Judging by the fact that only a few other stories got up to 8 comments.. and this has 91... I have a feeling this thread was mostly 3 people arguing with each other.

    Lol. How lame.

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  92. Ashley's 3rd husband has been in and out of jail more than once. He is a paranoid maniac, selfish, and very violent. He is the father of a sweet little girl who unfortunately has been forced to witness his abuse, his filthy language and his excessive, drunken behavior.
    He has also been arrested for simple assault as well as assault and battery in a high and violent manner! Check NAPD and Aiken County Sheriff's records.

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